Things You Don’t Learn in School

 Life has many lessons to teach us, some more painful than others—and some we’d just as soon be spared. But the graduates of 2021—well, they’ve been through a lot, arguably more than most—but with any luck at all, the days and years ahead will be brighter. 

Regardless, if you have a graduate—or if you are a graduate, here are some insights I’ve picked up along the way…   

ASAP is never as soon as people think.

Even those who work for themselves have bosses (they’re called “clients”).

Emails (generally) don’t have to be answered right this minute.

Bad news doesn’t improve with age.

Your first job can be like your first love—it will either bring a smile for years to come—or it can break your heart. And sometimes both.  

Don’t expect your job to respect personal boundaries without some “help.”

Don’t be afraid to pick up the phone.

If the only time your boss hears from you is when there’s trouble, don’t be surprised if they don’t look forward to your visits. 

Book some quiet time in your day.

Most meetings really could be replaced with an email.

You’re either early—or you’re late.

There is an inverse relationship between the number of people in a meeting and its productive output.

Everything you’ve heard about your elders isn’t true. But some of it is.

Generalizations are (almost) never accurate.

The world is made up of introverts and extroverts—learn and respect the difference(s).

Just because you’re young(er), people are going to assume you know things you don’t—and assume you don’t know things you do.

A picture may be worth a thousand words, but sometimes it pays to read the fine print.

Never say you’ll never…

Always sleep on big decisions.

Never let your schooling stand in the way of your education.

Sometimes the grass on the other side looks greener because of the amount of fertilizer applied.

Never miss an opportunity to say, “thank you.”

If you wouldn’t want your mother to learn about it, don’t…

Comments that begin “with all due respect” generally aren’t.

Sometimes the questions are complicated, but the answer isn’t.

That 401(k) match isn’t really “free” money—but it won’t cost you a thing.

And most of all, don’t forget that you’ll want to plan for your future now—because retirement, like graduation, seems a long way off—until it isn’t.

Congratulations to all the graduates out there. We’re proud of you!

- Nevin E. Adams, JD

p.s.: Got any advice to add to this list? Share it in the comment section below!